Proverbs of a 38 yr old man
If your going to have a long term relationship with someone you better stay physically attracted to them. Don’t allow your spouse to just become your friend. You have plenty of friends, but this one special lover and friend sleeps next to you in bed. This special lover you obviously distinguish by physical touch. The holding of hands. The kissing and hugging. The noticeable effort to be pleasing to your significant other. Physical intimacy is needed for a lasting marriage. And oddly enough that has nothing to do with sex, but yet it does. The glory of a man is his woman. Yes, a worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like a cancer in his bones. You can tell how much he pours into her by the joy on her face when she speaks of him. The happiness she displays apart from all physical provision. One clue is she can’t keep her hands off her husband. She has to keep at least one hand or foot on him because his touch is an extension of his heart. And she feels it with every heart beat. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength. Make sure you are modeling a cheerful heart, if not her dry spirit will sap your bones like a cancer to the bone. Think about this. Even a man's children praise him and always want to be around him. They want to be picked up and put on his shoulders. Amazing what physical intimacy looks like in different relationships. It’s a good tell all how our emotional connections are going in our lives. Our friends are the better for it when we desire real intimacy with each other. We need real spiritual intimacy with the LORD. And that comes from physical acts of prayer, scripture reading, and singing his praises. Without that physical connection with the LORD our relationship with God will suffer. And our fellowship with others will too. We will gain that spiritual intimacy with time in Gods presence. And if we don’t have it, that is why we neglect meeting with each other to connect and strengthen each other in faith. God created humans to be emotionally relational beings. Without the appropriate intimacy for each of our relationships we wither down to just selfishness and pride. Let’s work on our intimacy with God first, then our spouse, and then everything else after that. I think of the Holy Spirit as the oil of Gods presence that is poured over us as we become spiritually intimate with him. Like a cat rubbing in catnip is our spiritual intimacy with the LORD Jesus. It gets our physical intimacy going where we want to do good works and fellowship for the LORD. It will trickle down into our relationships. Starting with our spouses and on. You cannot love your spouse properly if you have no love for God. You cannot give what you do not have. Lets get close to Christ Jesus our LORD and Savior. He became human and knows our condition. He knows we need the Holy Spirit in full measure if we are to have real godly relationships with each other, and with him.
Study 1 Cor. 11:7