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Proverbs of a 39 yr old man.
When a man is broken. A man’s spirit will endure sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear? The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out. So listen to this: The power of man is his self control and the power of a woman is her silence. Both can be interchangeable but a great teaching can be seen in both. When a man is broken he can destroy everyone around him by his actions and what he does. Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. A man has to learn not to be out of control but to be out of people's control. Not letting people or circumstances cause him to lose self control. The Holy Spirit is our self control. With our hearts and minds submitted to God in Christ daily we can live a disciplined life of self control. A hothead stirs up a fight, but one who holds his temper calms disputes.
Same for a woman, her silence is golden. When a woman is broken she can destroy everyone around her with what she says. A kind answer soothes angry feelings, but harsh words stir them up. Better to learn in submission to God and his word. Her power is in her words and using them effectively. A man may trust in his strength for his own pride and ruin himself, so a woman can trust in her beauty and flattery and ruin herself with seductive words. A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Better to wait for the opportunity to speak, waiting and watching silently for wisdom, so you can be more precise and effective. Both men and woman rush with words having a nagging spirit because of unstable emotions and feelings. Instead of listening to the point where people will have to listen to what you are going to say because the very rocks are going to cry out. I think the story of Esther and The King greatly enhances this thought. Mordecai appeals to Esther saying in Esther 4:14 For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” Amen. Esther came to the King and spoke the truth of Haman in his presence. The King received the words at the right time and moment as Haman was found out of his wicked plan to destroy the Jews. He executed justice as he was stirred in right doing and not just fleshly emotions and pride. Both men and women must practice self control and be accountable for their actions and reactions. And my goodness with our words, be smart and be brave, and most of all, be silent. Better to be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. To be silent is not to be silenced. No, you are watching, waiting, and observing for the opportunity of: for such a time as this.
Study Prov. 25:15
