Proverbs of a 40 yr old man
The LORD hates a person who stirs up conflict in the community. Someone sowing quarrels between brothers. If you are like me, you don’t know anyone who likes conflict. We experience conflict when there are disagreements, misunderstandings, or simply poor communication. How we respond to conflict can either take us down a path to a healthy resolution or long-term strife. We are called as brothers and sisters in Christ to warn those who are idle and disruptive. Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” All it takes is for one person to sow discord and honor is thrown out the window. Those who stir conflict don't care who they hurt as long as everyone agrees they are right. Better to leave things to the conviction of Holy Spirit then speaking to many words to get your point across. We are actually called by Scripture to encourage the disheartened, help the weak, and to be patient with everyone. Many people say I honor God, I don't care about how it offends people. But by dishonoring your neighbor you dishonor God. We are to pay no one back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. That's means to not be concerned only about your own interests, but also be concerned about the interests of others. Let me close with the strong words of Jesus our LORD: If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. Better is an open reprimand of loving correction than love that is hidden. Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Look how a little leaven leavens the whole lump. And how just one person of conflict stirs dishonor in a group of people. Honor one another above yourselves.
Study Rom. 16:17